Comments on How to Marry a Bulgarian: Death from a distance

I have been living in Bulgaria for almost exactly ...

2009-07-28T02:57:17.048-05:00

I have been living in Bulgaria for almost exactly two years now. Last summer my Grandmother died and I was not able to make it home for the funeral and all communication was electronic. It's very hard...

Thanks for your comments. For some reason, it is c...

2009-07-04T06:14:26.288-05:00

Thanks for your comments. For some reason, it is comforting to know that I am not alone in this. Sometimes, when I get like that, I feel like I am losing my mind. Def not a good feeling. ;)

you put words to a feeling i've always had but nev...

2009-06-30T11:44:42.553-05:00

you put words to a feeling i've always had but never defined to myself. yes, it's the fear you wouldn't be there to be a part of a potential difficult moment for your family... to help with the 'healing' as you said. it seems everything else is manageable except for that emotion. for me it has created this subtle underlying sadness that often comes through in my 'bulgarian dreams'- the plane could never land in time... the street names have changed so i can't make it to the house in time.. i wan't to say i want to help but everything i say comes out in english and they get frustrated with me..

thanks for your insightful post!

I think that is def a constant fear for immigrants...

2009-06-29T14:07:23.311-05:00

I think that is def a constant fear for immigrants...I know it is for my bulgarian boyfriend!-Lydia

Happy Name Day! And, yes, I constantly have the s...

2009-06-29T13:05:12.944-05:00

Happy Name Day!

And, yes, I constantly have the same fear, and it's not just for my family abroad, it happens with family that's 15 minutes away.

That was my worst fear when I lived abroad... And ...

2009-06-29T11:31:18.225-05:00

That was my worst fear when I lived abroad... And also, when someone sounds sad on the phone, or mentions they're not feeling OK (and nothing more than that) you start freaking out... It is the distance that does this to you. I never found a way to fight this.
There were even times when I actually avoided talking to mom - she usually sounded sad (just because she missed me so much), but I made a HUGE deal out of it. Every time. It killed me to hear her sad voice and not to be able to give her a hug ...

Happy name day! :)
Bisous